Posted to another blog

A comment I posted at Sexeteria:

I'd say your advice was pretty spot on. Just to relay my experience:

I lost my virginity less than a month ago. My stipulations went like this (chronologically):
-not until I'm married (that was my Christian upbringing) and the first time won't be under the influence of alcohol or drugs
-not unless I really love the person (that was the beginning of college... I still did everything but vaginal/anal intercourse. The alcohol and drugs thing still applied.

Finally, here was my set:
-I care for the person and trust them
-I'm safe and know I have protection
-neither of us is under the influence

AND it ended up being me with a beer in me, her with at least three drinks in her and SUPER horny, me caring for her but not loving her, and neither of us using protection. Granted, we knew she couldn't get pregnant, but I was going on he word that she had no STDs. I had been down there before, but we should all know that that's not an indicator.

ANYWAY, I'm glad I got it out of the way... finally... at 23. But I still kind of regretted it. It felt amazing because she knew what she was doing, but we all wish we could change things. I think your advice would serve a lot of people well. Just don't go to Mexico and get a hooker.

Back to whackin'

My relationship with my girlfriend is over. Ignoring the emotional and non-sexual complications of it all, we hardly hooked up toward the end. It fucking sucks to think I lost my virginity to her, and now it's over. I can't say that either of us loved the other ever, but now it seems like whatever we did have meant nothing.

Oh well, such is life.

To speak of life, I have gotten back into the regular grind of whacking off. On of those new toys I got a while back was the Senso Vagina. Despite the unoriginal name, this thing rocks! I use it almost every time. I'm finally using real lube now instead of lotion, and it's working way better. This thing was only $19.95. I kind of wonder if someone makes the equivalent of "The Rabbit" for men? Does anyone know if there's a great men's masturbator out there?

The Truth

Last night I told my girlfriend the last of my sexual secrets. We got on the topic of what we find attractive in the other sex, and she asked me if I ever wanted another guy. I told her "no", not sexually, at least, but I do admire some guys' facial features. It makes it better still if they're personable. Once I get to know them, though, I stop seeing them that way and start seeing them as friends. But I digress...

She mentioned a girl who liked anal sex (don't know how we got there), and we talked about the pros and cons. She said she couldn't do it for a number of reasons, but especially because of the uncleanliness. I agreed that that might be an issue, too, but that most people seem to defer because of discomfort. I told her about how Dan Savage always recommends getting warmed up with rimming (blech), fingering and generally associating stimulation with vaginal stimulation and orgasms.

Eventually she asked me to spoon, and I jokingly said, "Only if you give me a reach around. Does that make me gay?"

She replied by saying, "Only if you want me to put a strap-on on and peg you while I do it."

I didn't agree, but somehow I conveyed to her that I had tried stuff before, and so I spilled the beans of my "anal history". She listened coolly and respectfully, then took it as is. (What a great girlfriend!) She told me a secret, too, but I can't pass that one on... yet. I have to get her permission I think. Maybe if and when I tell her about this blog...