A comment I posted at Sexeteria:
I'd say your advice was pretty spot on. Just to relay my experience:
I lost my virginity less than a month ago. My stipulations went like this (chronologically):
-not until I'm married (that was my Christian upbringing) and the first time won't be under the influence of alcohol or drugs
-not unless I really love the person (that was the beginning of college... I still did everything but vaginal/anal intercourse. The alcohol and drugs thing still applied.
Finally, here was my set:
-I care for the person and trust them
-I'm safe and know I have protection
-neither of us is under the influence
AND it ended up being me with a beer in me, her with at least three drinks in her and SUPER horny, me caring for her but not loving her, and neither of us using protection. Granted, we knew she couldn't get pregnant, but I was going on he word that she had no STDs. I had been down there before, but we should all know that that's not an indicator.
ANYWAY, I'm glad I got it out of the way... finally... at 23. But I still kind of regretted it. It felt amazing because she knew what she was doing, but we all wish we could change things. I think your advice would serve a lot of people well. Just don't go to Mexico and get a hooker.
Wednesday, March 14, 2007
Back to whackin'
My relationship with my girlfriend is over. Ignoring the emotional and non-sexual complications of it all, we hardly hooked up toward the end. It fucking sucks to think I lost my virginity to her, and now it's over. I can't say that either of us loved the other ever, but now it seems like whatever we did have meant nothing.
Oh well, such is life.
To speak of life, I have gotten back into the regular grind of whacking off. On of those new toys I got a while back was the Senso Vagina. Despite the unoriginal name, this thing rocks! I use it almost every time. I'm finally using real lube now instead of lotion, and it's working way better. This thing was only $19.95. I kind of wonder if someone makes the equivalent of "The Rabbit" for men? Does anyone know if there's a great men's masturbator out there?
Oh well, such is life.
To speak of life, I have gotten back into the regular grind of whacking off. On of those new toys I got a while back was the Senso Vagina. Despite the unoriginal name, this thing rocks! I use it almost every time. I'm finally using real lube now instead of lotion, and it's working way better. This thing was only $19.95. I kind of wonder if someone makes the equivalent of "The Rabbit" for men? Does anyone know if there's a great men's masturbator out there?
Monday, March 5, 2007
The Truth
Last night I told my girlfriend the last of my sexual secrets. We got on the topic of what we find attractive in the other sex, and she asked me if I ever wanted another guy. I told her "no", not sexually, at least, but I do admire some guys' facial features. It makes it better still if they're personable. Once I get to know them, though, I stop seeing them that way and start seeing them as friends. But I digress...
She mentioned a girl who liked anal sex (don't know how we got there), and we talked about the pros and cons. She said she couldn't do it for a number of reasons, but especially because of the uncleanliness. I agreed that that might be an issue, too, but that most people seem to defer because of discomfort. I told her about how Dan Savage always recommends getting warmed up with rimming (blech), fingering and generally associating stimulation with vaginal stimulation and orgasms.
Eventually she asked me to spoon, and I jokingly said, "Only if you give me a reach around. Does that make me gay?"
She replied by saying, "Only if you want me to put a strap-on on and peg you while I do it."
I didn't agree, but somehow I conveyed to her that I had tried stuff before, and so I spilled the beans of my "anal history". She listened coolly and respectfully, then took it as is. (What a great girlfriend!) She told me a secret, too, but I can't pass that one on... yet. I have to get her permission I think. Maybe if and when I tell her about this blog...
She mentioned a girl who liked anal sex (don't know how we got there), and we talked about the pros and cons. She said she couldn't do it for a number of reasons, but especially because of the uncleanliness. I agreed that that might be an issue, too, but that most people seem to defer because of discomfort. I told her about how Dan Savage always recommends getting warmed up with rimming (blech), fingering and generally associating stimulation with vaginal stimulation and orgasms.
Eventually she asked me to spoon, and I jokingly said, "Only if you give me a reach around. Does that make me gay?"
She replied by saying, "Only if you want me to put a strap-on on and peg you while I do it."
I didn't agree, but somehow I conveyed to her that I had tried stuff before, and so I spilled the beans of my "anal history". She listened coolly and respectfully, then took it as is. (What a great girlfriend!) She told me a secret, too, but I can't pass that one on... yet. I have to get her permission I think. Maybe if and when I tell her about this blog...
Monday, February 26, 2007
Virginity
I had planned on posting regarding virginity. It's still going to happen, but I'm not sure how authoritative I can be on it anymore. As of the early AM on Saturday morning, I am no longer a virgin. I lost it at 23. How was it? It was worth waiting for someone I had a real relationship with. It felt amazing compared to oral, but in a different way.
The first time, she didn't come, so we tried again, but I was too spent, and I have a problem getting it up and keeping it up while I'm on my back for some reason. I think it's because I never masturbate on my back. Anyways, this morning (yesterday morning) we went at it again, and this time I made sure she was warmed up. I entered her with a little guidance from her hand, and I started gently, then worked into a harder thrust. She was so wet, and it didn't take long before I was thrusting hard and fast.
She was moaning a lot and really enjoying it. We were just trying missionary, and I had always heard that missionary is pretty lame for the woman, but she asked me to stay in it instead of trying something new. She wanted me to put my weight on her, though, so I did. I guess the bottom of my stomach rubbed her clit just right, ad she was getting off.
I slowed down after a little bit because I could feel myself getting ready to come. I took it slow, but thrusted deep into her, and she started moaning loudly and whispering how good it felt. I couldn't help it and started fucking her faster again. She started crying out, then told me she was going to come. That pushed me overboard and since I knew I was about three seconds from coming, I started ramming her hard, which she liked a lot.
We ended up coming at the same time! Who knew it would happen on my second try! I just kept pushing and coming in her more and more while she kind of groaned a little then collapsed back, exhausted. I know it's such an unrealistic and romanticized thing, so I shouldn't get my hopes up for recreating it in the future, but god, was it amazing! She said later that I made her toes tingle. Hah!
I guess that's all to say for now, except "yay!" Now I can start working on lasting longer and enjoying other positions.
Sorry. It's been a while since I posted. Eventually I'll learn that I'm never going to get a readership without posting regularly.
The first time, she didn't come, so we tried again, but I was too spent, and I have a problem getting it up and keeping it up while I'm on my back for some reason. I think it's because I never masturbate on my back. Anyways, this morning (yesterday morning) we went at it again, and this time I made sure she was warmed up. I entered her with a little guidance from her hand, and I started gently, then worked into a harder thrust. She was so wet, and it didn't take long before I was thrusting hard and fast.
She was moaning a lot and really enjoying it. We were just trying missionary, and I had always heard that missionary is pretty lame for the woman, but she asked me to stay in it instead of trying something new. She wanted me to put my weight on her, though, so I did. I guess the bottom of my stomach rubbed her clit just right, ad she was getting off.
I slowed down after a little bit because I could feel myself getting ready to come. I took it slow, but thrusted deep into her, and she started moaning loudly and whispering how good it felt. I couldn't help it and started fucking her faster again. She started crying out, then told me she was going to come. That pushed me overboard and since I knew I was about three seconds from coming, I started ramming her hard, which she liked a lot.
We ended up coming at the same time! Who knew it would happen on my second try! I just kept pushing and coming in her more and more while she kind of groaned a little then collapsed back, exhausted. I know it's such an unrealistic and romanticized thing, so I shouldn't get my hopes up for recreating it in the future, but god, was it amazing! She said later that I made her toes tingle. Hah!
I guess that's all to say for now, except "yay!" Now I can start working on lasting longer and enjoying other positions.
Sorry. It's been a while since I posted. Eventually I'll learn that I'm never going to get a readership without posting regularly.
Saturday, February 10, 2007
My new stuff!
I'm buzzing right now, so there are bound to be typos. I'd look for another longer post tomorrow.
As far as new stuff goes, I got a boatload in the mail. I bought a masturbation sleeve, four different sized cock rings, a home enema kit and, my prize, an Aneros. I'm tried them all now, but I'm a little out of it to review anything yet. Stay posted, and I'll pass it all on. Suffice to say, I've got mixed feelings about all this. Still, at least I'm excited about trying them all again. That purple thing is getting chucked.
Blech. I keep catching typos. I'll write more tomorrow.
Ciao.
As far as new stuff goes, I got a boatload in the mail. I bought a masturbation sleeve, four different sized cock rings, a home enema kit and, my prize, an Aneros. I'm tried them all now, but I'm a little out of it to review anything yet. Stay posted, and I'll pass it all on. Suffice to say, I've got mixed feelings about all this. Still, at least I'm excited about trying them all again. That purple thing is getting chucked.
Blech. I keep catching typos. I'll write more tomorrow.
Ciao.
Wednesday, February 7, 2007
Stroking It
I'm ridiculously tired right now, but I thought I'd quick post a comment on how masturbation is ruining my life. My girlfriend and I don't see each other a lot and only get a couple chances to go at it a week. Thus, a good bit of my free at home time has been taken up with whacking off.
Lately, I've been spending around an hour a session. It's kind of hurting my social and academic life right now. Plus, I could be doing a lot more creative things. Stay tuned, and I'll post more on the subject.
Lately, I've been spending around an hour a session. It's kind of hurting my social and academic life right now. Plus, I could be doing a lot more creative things. Stay tuned, and I'll post more on the subject.
Monday, February 5, 2007
Anal Play
There's an eye-catcher for you! I figure, since this thing is about sex, I might as well be frank and talk about the forefront of my experimentation. I just clicked the purchase button at www.cheaplubes.com for over $90 in sex toys. I'm really excited for all of this, but I think I can flashback for a second to introduce all of this.
My fascination with anal play started back (probably freshman year) when I discovered that pushing my perineum while I was whacking off could increase pleasure and even stop ejaculation to make resuming easier. It also aids in holding back the orgasm as a whole to continue whacking (or sex or whatever) with nearly no break. From there, I did some studying to find that, among other things, the prostate was really sensitive and could lead to a different kind of orgasm. I think I found that out in tandem with seeing the prostate milking scene in the movie Road Trip. Since then, I had been thinking of trying it.
Of course, being a straight guy, I had reservations about trying such a thing. It wasn't so much the thought that I might be seen as gay or that I had images in my head of a penis ramming my poop shoot, but rather that I would have something put up my butt rather than come out of it. Coincidentally (and maybe luckily), the first thing I ever tried was a toothbrush. This particular toothbrush had a handle that was long enough and angled just so as to hit the prostate pretty much dead on. The picture below shows the contours (of a similar brush, not the exact same one!) As you can see, the end is tapered and very anal-friendly, then it widens , then tapers, then widens again. The good leverage and positioning were the lucky parts. The part that might have been unfortunate is that something like that could easily and painfully get lost up a beginner's bum. I'm lucky I had a good hand on it.
The method to get it up there was simple. Cover it in a soft plastic baggie and hold the end of the baggie, cover the tip of this apparatus in vaseline, the slowly work it in there. I was 18 or so and had read of the dangers of unlubed objects probing nether regions, so I was prepared. I kind of held the bristled part and leveraged the handle against my prostate again and again. I had pretty hard wood, as this was experimental and new, so I cam quickly. That was my first and only prostatic orgasm. I never touched my cock, and I remember coming hard.
Afterward, I was pretty disgusted by the shit smell and all I really remember is finding a way to dispose of it without my parents finding it. Flash forward to my junior year of college. I shared a room in a house with a friend, and I had ordered a discreet package containing a purple vibrator which a website said was great for men to hit their prostate. You can see from the picture that that's a crock of shit, since the prostate is located in a man similar to the G spot in a woman. (Face the recipient, insert a finger and make a "come hither" gesture.) Also, the toy could easily get sucked inside a colon if the user didn't have a grip. The vibrator only worked to get me turned on while I was masturbating, but not to give me a prostatic orgasm.
I also tried putting on a glove and using my fingers, but the angle just doesn't work for me unless I'm squatting. Fuck that. If I felt more comfortable with my girlfriend, I'd ask her to try it on me, but we're not to that point. We talk frankly about sex, but I've never told anyone about this, so it might be further down the line.
Anyway, to solve the problem, I did some research and found out what works well. A good anal toy needs to be four inches or so and bendy to hit the prostate. Enter what seems to be the most popular "prostate massager": the Aneros. It looks really funky, as it has three parts. The insertable portion (vertical and top), the perineal-stimulator (horizontal left side) and the handle.
The best thing about it is that it uses anal sphincter contractions to power the toy so it strokes the prostate. It's hands-free and it won't slip out (or in)! I had to try this thing, and with a little graduation money, I decided to splurge.
In addition to the Aneros, I got some cock rings (upon a suggestion by my girlfriend, who knows nothing of this particular purchase but said it would make stuff more fun), a masturbation sleeve (since I've always wanted one) and an anal doucher. The anal douche is just a bulb with a tip, but as I said before, I hate the smell of shit. I read that this is how most people do anal sex or rimming without worrying about it... though I think if I ever rimmed a girl, I might have to use a dental dam or spray her down myself.
I'm excited for all of this and will have to detail a play-by-play as it all pans out. While I was looking, I found a trial by a guy in a nearly similar situation as myself. He writes as if he' doing a chemistry lab write-up. That kicks ass!
My fascination with anal play started back (probably freshman year) when I discovered that pushing my perineum while I was whacking off could increase pleasure and even stop ejaculation to make resuming easier. It also aids in holding back the orgasm as a whole to continue whacking (or sex or whatever) with nearly no break. From there, I did some studying to find that, among other things, the prostate was really sensitive and could lead to a different kind of orgasm. I think I found that out in tandem with seeing the prostate milking scene in the movie Road Trip. Since then, I had been thinking of trying it.
Of course, being a straight guy, I had reservations about trying such a thing. It wasn't so much the thought that I might be seen as gay or that I had images in my head of a penis ramming my poop shoot, but rather that I would have something put up my butt rather than come out of it. Coincidentally (and maybe luckily), the first thing I ever tried was a toothbrush. This particular toothbrush had a handle that was long enough and angled just so as to hit the prostate pretty much dead on. The picture below shows the contours (of a similar brush, not the exact same one!) As you can see, the end is tapered and very anal-friendly, then it widens , then tapers, then widens again. The good leverage and positioning were the lucky parts. The part that might have been unfortunate is that something like that could easily and painfully get lost up a beginner's bum. I'm lucky I had a good hand on it.
The method to get it up there was simple. Cover it in a soft plastic baggie and hold the end of the baggie, cover the tip of this apparatus in vaseline, the slowly work it in there. I was 18 or so and had read of the dangers of unlubed objects probing nether regions, so I was prepared. I kind of held the bristled part and leveraged the handle against my prostate again and again. I had pretty hard wood, as this was experimental and new, so I cam quickly. That was my first and only prostatic orgasm. I never touched my cock, and I remember coming hard.
Afterward, I was pretty disgusted by the shit smell and all I really remember is finding a way to dispose of it without my parents finding it. Flash forward to my junior year of college. I shared a room in a house with a friend, and I had ordered a discreet package containing a purple vibrator which a website said was great for men to hit their prostate. You can see from the picture that that's a crock of shit, since the prostate is located in a man similar to the G spot in a woman. (Face the recipient, insert a finger and make a "come hither" gesture.) Also, the toy could easily get sucked inside a colon if the user didn't have a grip. The vibrator only worked to get me turned on while I was masturbating, but not to give me a prostatic orgasm.
I also tried putting on a glove and using my fingers, but the angle just doesn't work for me unless I'm squatting. Fuck that. If I felt more comfortable with my girlfriend, I'd ask her to try it on me, but we're not to that point. We talk frankly about sex, but I've never told anyone about this, so it might be further down the line.
Anyway, to solve the problem, I did some research and found out what works well. A good anal toy needs to be four inches or so and bendy to hit the prostate. Enter what seems to be the most popular "prostate massager": the Aneros. It looks really funky, as it has three parts. The insertable portion (vertical and top), the perineal-stimulator (horizontal left side) and the handle.
The best thing about it is that it uses anal sphincter contractions to power the toy so it strokes the prostate. It's hands-free and it won't slip out (or in)! I had to try this thing, and with a little graduation money, I decided to splurge.
In addition to the Aneros, I got some cock rings (upon a suggestion by my girlfriend, who knows nothing of this particular purchase but said it would make stuff more fun), a masturbation sleeve (since I've always wanted one) and an anal doucher. The anal douche is just a bulb with a tip, but as I said before, I hate the smell of shit. I read that this is how most people do anal sex or rimming without worrying about it... though I think if I ever rimmed a girl, I might have to use a dental dam or spray her down myself.
I'm excited for all of this and will have to detail a play-by-play as it all pans out. While I was looking, I found a trial by a guy in a nearly similar situation as myself. He writes as if he' doing a chemistry lab write-up. That kicks ass!
Thursday, February 1, 2007
Starters
This blog is going to be a documentation of my thoughts on the idea and actions of sex. I hope I can benefit some by writing and allowing people to have a look.
For the sake of my life and the life of my partner or future partners, this blog will remain anonymous. Here's what you need to know.
sex: man
age: 23
sexuality: straight
location: midwest
I welcome any comments you might have, providing they're constructive and polite. Enjoy.
For the sake of my life and the life of my partner or future partners, this blog will remain anonymous. Here's what you need to know.
sex: man
age: 23
sexuality: straight
location: midwest
I welcome any comments you might have, providing they're constructive and polite. Enjoy.
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